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What To Do When You Haven’t Reached Your Goals

There are 22 days left in 2011. At least 10 of those will be sucked up into the busy holiday season. That leaves us, already busy moms, 1 & 1/2weeks to reach the goals that we set for ourselves for this year.

When I look at my list of goals that was written on 12-10-2010, I’m a little disappointed in myself.

However, when I look at my life over the past year  I can say, “It’s all good AND it’s all God.”

I’ve been setting goals for years and I ALWAYS set them pretty high. As the saying goes, “shoot for the moon and at least you’ll land among the stars.” Sometimes I forget that I set the bar high and start to believe my own hype; it’s then that I have to remind myself what I did and release myself from the self-induced disappointments. LOL!

So when you find that you haven’t reached your goals for the year here are some things to consider & change before you go into the next year:

Where the goals realistic?

Mompreneurs are an ambitious breed. Just think about it: we choose this season of our lives to run a business and a lot of us are doing it even while working a J.O.B.  We know how to get things done!  And we set goals based on our dynamic, multi-tasking, supermom abilities. But sometimes life doesn’t cooperate.  I set my goals last Dec based on my awesomeness of 2010. I forgot that in 2011 I would be homeschooling 3 elementary children! The 4th grader, 1st grader and kindergartener all need extreme attention. I don’t know how I failed to account for that in my goals. Therefore they were a little unrealistic.

NOTE FOR NEXT YEAR’S GOALS: Look at 2012 in it’s entirety and anticipate future changes during the year. Set goals accordingly.


Were your goals prioritized?

Because  mompreneurs are an ambitious bunch we often set too many goals. That’s okay. However, prioritize them so that you’re not feeling like a failure when you see that there are some that you have not yet tackled. For instance, one of my clients set her goals for the year and it included starting a BlogTalk Radio show. She keep beating herself up about not getting started until I reminded her that she had 4 other MAJOR plates that she was juggling. One of those was a new baby! The radio show can stay on her list of goals but should be placed on the backburner and only looked at when 1 or 2 of her other projects are completed.

NOTE FOR NEXT YEAR’S GOALS: Dream big. Plan big. But prioritize them by assigning some goals for the last of the year; and even then promise yourself that you won’t tackle them until priority goals A, B & C are completed.


Were the goals yours?

Sometimes you set a particular goal because you THINK that it is the next LOGICAL step in your career. It’s what the gurus are telling you what you should do. Or because it’s what your mentor is doing it. Later you beat ourselves up when you see that you haven’t tackled it. On my list of goals for 2011 I listed, ‘start group coaching’. However when I ask myself why haven’t I attempted this I have to be honest; I love one-on-one coaching. I LOVE talking and interacting with each individual client. Even though the coaching industry and all of the coaching gurus are yelling “group coaching” and the lucrative benefits of it, my heart says one-on-one.

NOTE FOR NEXT YEAR’S GOALS:  Make sure your goals are yours by following your heart!

Did the goals require more resources?

Sometimes we set ambitious goals but dont’ factor into the mix the “needed extras”. For instance if it was your goal to have an ebook available for purchase on your website you may have written out steps like:

  • 1. outline ebook
  • 2. write chapter 1
  • 3. research info for chap 2
  • etc

Until you found your goal accomplished. BOOK COMPLETED. But you left out crucial steps like: write up a sales page, download to server, get endorsements, research shopping carts. This left you with a half accomplished goal. Book completed but not for sale.

NOTE FOR NEXT YEAR’S GOALS: Don’t forget the “needed extras”. This will include things and activities-people, skills, learning, research, phone calls-to help you complete your goals.


Did you commit to the goal?

Sometimes we set goals and we have apprehension in the back of our minds. For example, an past client of mine had just received her certification as a life coach. She set a goal to speak locally once a month. 6months later she had not given one presentation! When I talked with her it turned out that she was unsure about her topics because she wanted to switch her niche. She hadn’t fully committed to the goal.

NOTE FOR NEXT YEAR’S GOALS: Don’t put anything on your goal list unless you are sure that you’re ready to tackle it. If it’s on your list move forward on it.

My 2011 has been such a blessing and I have accomplished soooo much. It’s amazing what I have accomplished considering all of my many responsibilities-home, homeschooling, church, volunteer work, clients and a social life. That’s what I have to remind myself when my mind wants to focus on the goals that I haven’t accomplished. And then make new plans for next year.

What do you do when you haven’t reached your goals?


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To Our Mutual Success, Lady T

  • I
    January 10, 2012 at 12:39 pm

    I didnt achieve all of my goals in time for the turn of the new year. However going forwards I have accomplished a lot more than I did this time last year business wise and personally. With the help of a more structured approach and technology much like Jeremy my 2012 is looking brighter!!

    • Lady T
      January 10, 2012 at 10:35 pm

      As Dory sings in, Finding Nemo, “Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming, swimming swimming…”

  • Bridgette
    December 30, 2011 at 7:25 pm

    Wow Lady T! That 1st one is exactly what I was challenged with! I didn’t recognize it until I just read it!

  • Jeremy L. Goldsmith
    December 13, 2011 at 1:00 am

    I have started to use two apps on my phone to help me track my goals. I receive daily reminders to keep me focused. Yes, I was a little disappointed in myself this year but like you said…I try to focus on my accomplishments. I have accomplished muchmore this year than I would have if I had not set any goals. Looking forward to 2012!

  • Carol Dunlop
    December 11, 2011 at 9:46 pm

    Thanks for reminding us all that we are only human, make plenty of mistakes, but are in this to win it and can do anything we set our minds to do. I like how you broke down the steps to create and accomplish our goals.

    • Lady T
      December 16, 2011 at 5:05 pm

      Isn’t it funny how we can forget the thing that we KNOW is true?


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