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Are You Still Focused on Your Goals for the New Year?

We’re now well pass the hype of the New Year! Are you still focused? Are you on track?

Recently I’ve received requests for coaching and unfortunately I’m not available for coaching right now. But here is something that I have my (past) clients do in order to help them shut down the extra voices and stay focused on what they want to accomplish.

Are you still focused or are you like the 90% who have forgotten about their goals back in February? This video will help

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Get Focused and Do What You Have to Do

dowhatuhaveto2As a traveling mompreneur of 5 children many people often ask me “how do you do it all?”

I use to ask other moms the same question.

After talking to them and living it myself I have learned that awesome moms are awesome because they live the mantra, “do what you have to do.”

 

You do what they have to do to ensure that your children are healthy.

You do what you have to do to make your life is drama free.

You do what you have to do to ensure the security of the future for your family.

Leave the rest up to God and let everything else fall by the wayside.

 

This may mean less sleep, less material possessions, less play time or even putting your dreams on hold. However, by keeping your eye on your values you will happily sacrifice those things to move your life toward your values and a happier life.

The key words there are “keeping your eye on your values.” You have to know what they are.  What’s important to you? Once you decide them there are 3 things to remember.

 

DON’T ASSUME OTHER PEOPLES VALUES

When determining your values you must know your WHY.

  • Why do you want to lose weight?
  • Why want a new house?
  • Why do you want to be a stay home mom.

So many people make decisions because they have been told what they should do, be, have. Look deeply into the things that you say you value and ask yourself these 3 questions

  1. If I don’t get/be that thing who is going to suffer most and how? This makes you look at the persons in your life.
  2. Can I wait another year for that?  This makes you look at your patience
  3. Am I willing to sacrifice for that? This helps you assess your passion

Once I had a desire to return to a size 5 and when I answered those 3 questions I came up with.

  1. The only person it’s going to effect is me and in no significant way.
  2. Nooo I want to be a size 5 NOW!
  3. I’m not willing to sacrifice time, sleep or food.

These answers told me that it was only wishful thinking. Wishful thinking won’t get you far Therefore I stopped walking around complaining “I’m not there yet” and envying women who were “there”. I stopped putting it on my vision board. I feel completely at peace.

Write out your values to help you stay focused on the important thing!

 

DON’T HANG ON TO THEM TO TIGHTLY

Once you have determined  your values-what’s important to you and your family-and you are moving in that direction be prepared to change up when it’s time. You must be flexible. Seasons change. Life changes.

Often I get questions from women, in my seminars or by emails, who want to know if they should quit their job to become a stay home mom; or stop being a SAHM and go back to work or stop homeschooling and put the children in public school. Of course I can’t answer that question for them but I do tell them how to recognize when the season has changed and it’s time to release a tightly held decision or value: You lose your peace and it’s difficult to keep doing it the same way.

after homeschooling 18yrs-

I had been homeschooling for 18 years (here’s my homeschooling video) but 2 years ago it got to be “too much”. It really wasn’t (I was down to 3 kids) but it FELT like it because I was out of the homeschooling season. I was trying to grow my business and homeschool 3 little ones and wasn’t doing either effectively. After talking it over with my Pastor/Friend he suggested that I put them in school. I immediately felt at peace when the words came to my ears but my mind-with it’s tightly held beliefs-was appalled that this spiritual man would even suggest that I go against my values!

I told him I would have to pray about it.

When I discussed it with my husband I realized that he and I were both of the tightly-held-beliefs to continue homeschooling. But as I listened to him vehemently pontificate on his belief it occurred to me that we were both to closed-minded.

Anytime things aren’t working out and you defend the WHY they are that way, then you are arguing to keep them  that way. And you are not open to hear God for the solution, no matter how much you say you are praying.

I called my Pastor and talked through my hesitations and concerns about putting the kids in school. He heard them out, gave me a different viewpoint and left me to decide. The thought of putting them in school, ironically gave me peace-something I had never felt before. While the thought of continuing on the way we were stressed me out. A year later I put them in.

They ABSOLUTELY love it! They all get straight A’s! They have beautifully matured! And my business has grown exponentially! I have peace. My new goal is to make more money, work less and return to homeschooling. This goal gives me peace as well.

If you hold on to tightly and try to stay during the wrong season then you will make life difficult for yourself.  Do what you have to do to live your values while staying flexible as the seasons of life change.

 

DON’T GET CAUGHT IN THE PETTINESS

Keep your eye on your values so that you’re not allowing the challenges and pettiness of life to take you over; so that you aren’t taking on others emotions and beliefs and getting caught up in them.  Especially family members.

always defending myself

I remember, years ago when I decided to homeschool, spending quite a bit of time on the phone trying to defend my decision.  One relative cornered me and with partially controlled hostility asked, “Why would you deprive your child of the experiences that going to school can bring? No one did that to you! That’s a form of child abuse!”

Two years later her child was put back into 1st grade.

That’s when it occurred to me that I had wasted two years explaining and justifying my position on something that will defend itself in time.

Don’t get me wrong, helping people to understand a concept that they are not familiar with is important. But that’s not what I was doing. I was trying to get them to understand ME and MY decision. 

Do what you have to to stay focused on your values and don’t get caught up in the drama or pettiness of arguing, explaining defending them. 

So when I am out traveling, speaking, training, volunteering, cooking, or sitting around and reading to my babies and I am asked “how do you do it all?” I can honestly say it’s because I know what I value and I do what I have to do to make it happen.

I would love to hear from you: Are you doing what you have to do or are you just cursing along hoping that things are done for you?

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All Things Are Possible

To many people have dreams but give up to easily when things get tough. We have to remember that ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE!

You use a cell phone to call someone on the other side of the country and the signal shoots to a satellite out of space and down to their phone in 2 SECONDS! ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE!

You get in a piece of tin foil with 150 other people and mankind defies gravity by flying through the air at 300mph! ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE!

You program in your little gizmo an address in a different city and your gizmo tells you how to get there and the exact  time you will arrive even when you decide to go a different route! ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE!

When you look at man’s inventions who can doubt that we have been created by an AWESOME CREATOR who has given us TREMENDOUS creative abilities! All we have to do is have faith, believe and act on our faith. That means you can’t give up when you’ve think that you’ve “worked sooo hard.”

WORK HARDER!

WHATEVER YOU WANT IS POSSIBLE!

Here’s a video that reminded me of the GRAND possibilities of mankind…and brought tears to my eyes.

So what are you able to accomplish…if only you believed that all things are possible? Leave your thought.

MINDSET FOR SUCCESS: 3 TIPS TO HELP YOU TAKE THE “F” WORD OUT OF YOUR VOCABULARY

Leaving the comfy and secure realm of full- time employment requires a number of things, but most important it requires a shift in your mind set. Doing what it takes to set your self up for mental success starts with taking the “F” word out of your vocabulary permanently.

My friends, I want you to say good bye to the “F” word: Fail!  The only way that you can fail, is if you give up!  The only way that you can fail is if you don’t even try!

Get that non-progressive, self-defeating F word out of your head and out of your vocabulary ASAP.  The right question to be asking your self and acting upon is; how will I set myself up for business success?  My belief is that the F word all starts with a mindset.  If you choose to focus on failing and why things won’t work, I can promise you that  you will have a long road ahead of you to attain business success.  The right mindset, a positive mindset is what’s required to get the F word out of your vocabulary permanently.

When your mind is consumed with why it won’t work,  then you have already taken 5 step backwards before you have taken even one step forward. If you don’t believe in yourself, your product, or your service, either will your customers.

Here are some tips to get you setting yourself up for business success and deleting the F word from your vocab.

 Tip #1

Choose to focus on progressive thoughts and how you will make your business work and how you will be successful. But don’t be disillusioned, thoughts alone don’t bring about success positive thought, hard work and progressive action bring about business success.

Tip #2

Choose to not fight change and  learn how to embrace it (no matter how difficult it may seem in the moment). The reality is this; times change, your clients change,  market conditions change;the decision is yours, are going to submit to the F word?? Of course not! Make a conscious decision to be willing to embrace change or what will happen is that change will manage you and that is when you lose control. Be intentional about looking for the opportunities in times of change, trust me they are there.

 Tip #3

Nobody likes to make mistakes. However, the simple reality of life is that at some point, all of us are going to be wrong, do something bad, or somehow screw something up – that’s just life. As a business owner, recognize that you are going to make a lot of mistakes, it’s not the F word.  Set yourself up to learn from mistakes you make and things that have not gone as planned, use these new lessons learned to fuel your success.

 On a closing note, we should never accept and embrace failing fast as a concept.  You can call it failure but I choose to call it learning, WHAT NOT TO DO, which is just as important as learning WHAT TO DO.

So, let us toast to permanently eliminating the F word –  cheers!

Karen Donaldson is a Motivational/Empowerment Speaker, Public Speaking and Presentation skills coach and Founder of Karen Donaldson Inc. Visit Karen at www.karendonaldsoninc.com

Also check out our interview on my BlogTalk Radio show I am The Boss of Me, where Karen talked about quitting her job and starting her own business.

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Does Marketing Have to Take up all your Time?

I recently conducted a survey among all my colleagues on LinkedIn, asking them to tell me about their experiences transitioning from a job to self-employment.  I posed the following question:  What was the single most important thing you had to learn if you left corporate employment and started a new business? 
The choices were:  How to manage time, how to cope with working alone, having to learn new skills, finding qualified assistants, and marketing the new business.
The answer chosen most often was “marketing the new business,” (44%) and next was “having to learn new skills,” (24%).
The comments about marketing had a negativity that gave me pause–listen to some of them:

  • Go into business because you love business, not a particular profession,because the business activities will take up 90% of your time.
  • Within the first months,you’ll realize your primary job now is to market the business, and not to do what you are good at doing.
  • I was was able to get several clients, but it took a lot of time and effort.  I was more than happy to return to a place where I could work with a staff and stay connected to people.  I have no desire to work alone again.
So it sounds like many people who have started their own business are finding that it is not what they thought it would be.  I don’t know, but I wonder if a lot of these people underestimated the nature of the changes required of them, and that they are suffering because they set up a business that was unworkable from the start.
You should expect to spend 90% of your time marketing in the first month or so, but it should drop off significantly after that, once you get your pipeline full.  If you put a strong marketing system in place, you will get a steady stream of clients from a measured amount of activity each month, leaving you plenty of time to do what you love.
If you are making any major change in your life, get a coach, a mentor and/or a teacher to make sure you understand the nature of the work ahead.  Don’t try to reinvent the wheel!
Susan Longley is a business coach who specializes in empowering emerging entrepreneurs to become confident business owners. She works with people to develop an entrepreneurial mindset and teaches them the basic skills they need to start and grow their businesses.   www.keystonebusinesscoaching.com
Also, listen to Susan’s interview where she talked openly about her transition from employee to entrepreneur on my BlogTalk Radio Show, I am The Boss of Me.
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