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Kick The Guilt Habit

Today Steph of Be Postive Mom is my guest blogger! You can check her out at Be Postive Mom.com

 

Most working moms will tell you they have felt guilty at one time or another about managing their home as well as a career. Some moms navigate more demanding jobs while others may have a flexible work environment. Either way, time at work is time away from home.

Have you ever found yourself in an endless guilt whirlwind? For example, you are commuting along after dropping off your precious little one at daycare and you can’t help but think of all the things you are doing wrong as a working mom.

The “guilt habit” is a tough one to break, isn’t it?

We often find ourselves in a cycle of negative thoughts and feelings about our careers and our choices made as working moms. Many times we are left frazzled and stressed. Guilt can bring a mom down mentally, physically and emotionally.

With a bit of deliberate thinking and a twist to that negative thought pattern, any working mom can embrace the positive aspects of being a career mom. Nurture yourself by kicking the guilt habit and gain some perspective with a few easy steps.

1) Acknowledge It

Guilt is there and we know it. The key is to squash the cycle of guilt by acknowledging what makes us feel guilty. Pull out a piece of paper and write down the things that make you feel guilt.

Get it out by acknowledging it!

2) Turn That Guilt Around

Using your list, think about the positive aspects of working and the benefits to your family as a result.

Some examples:

  • My son is in daycare. What’s great about it is that he loves his preschool and happily runs into the school each day (which is a statement in and of itself). He is learning in a safe, positive environment.
  • I am demonstrating to my children that women and men work contributing to their financial well-being.
  • I am nurturing my career as well as my family.
  • I am confident in the choices I have made for my family.

 

3) Talk About It

Chat with fellow working moms at work, friends who work outside of your office or your partner. You may receive great tips from a co-worker experiencing the same thoughts.

Talking about your guilt will help you better understand it and then allow you to acknowledge the positive aspects of your choices. Stepping back from an issue may help you gain some valuable perspective and give you an opportunity to kick the guilt habit.

 

People Need What You Know

Today Carol Bremner of Motivated To Learn is guest posting today and gives mompreneurs a great tip based on something she learned.  Thanks Carol!

I attend workshops in my area whenever I can and try to gather as many tips as possible. One tip I heard recently was to create an acronym based on your business. Then when you tell people what you do, use the acronym.

I thought about my Internet Training business and came up with the following:

I – Intimidating
N – Necessary
T – Timewasting
E – Everything
R – Research
N – Numbing
E – Eventful
T- Totally Cool

Try this exercise and see what you come up with and let me know.

Carol Bremner is a computer loving member of the gray generation. Her websites,
 Creative Home Computing.com and Motivated to Learn.com promote computer literacy for the non-techie. 
Feel free to post your acronym below!

Networking 101 for Writers

Today Alice Osborn is guest posting with valuable information on how to network to sell your (future) book! Thanks Alice!

 

In today’s competitive publication climate networking can make all of the difference between your books sitting a cold box in storage or in customers’ warm hands. And even before you publish, networking can help you connect you to editors, agents and to your readership.

Perhaps in the old days writers didn’t have to be so “out there,” as today, but now we don’t have any choice but to learn how to network effectively to build our platform and to catch the eye of a potential publisher.

Why Network?

Because you need a strong, dynamic network of over 260+ people to sell your future book, find venues for your book launch, discover readers, gain referrals to book clubs and to engage in writing opportunities. You’re now building your “sphere of influence.”

It’s a good idea for writers to network with both writers and non-writers. Networking is about connecting to people and letting them know how you can help them. Networking will build your reputation and grow your readership since most people want to do be associated with those they know, like and trust. But where do you start if you don’t have any sales or marketing training? The good news is that it doesn’t matter what kind of training or background you have, as long as you’re willing to learn and take a few stumbles along the way.

The most effective networkers succeed through practice, patience and skill since they know that effective networking involves asking smart questions, giving information and not pitching your goods and services to everyone you meet. Effective networkers also know that givers gain, and even if the person they are generous with their time and resources doesn’t reciprocate, they’ll gain in the future because of their efforts.

 

Get Started By

  • Preparing a 30-sec commercial that tells those around you what makes you different and tells them what you’re passionate about. Why do you write what you write? Who or what are your influences?

 

  • Perfecting the art of making introductions for others. For instance, when you meet someone who could help someone you know, like an editor or a graphic designer, offer to send an email, cc’ing your new networking friend in the email. And if you can, try setting up a meeting that will involve you and your two mutual contacts. Introduce them to each other and then back off a little so they can get to know each other. If a meeting is too hard to set up, invite your potential networking colleague to an event/program and talk with him/her at the venue.

 

  • Be willing to volunteer your time if you see that the group you’re volunteering for can help you in the future. For example, if you don’t have a book out yet and you volunteer to give a talk to the local library, keep ties with that library so you can be invited back when you do have a book in hand.

 

  • Showing up at open mics and other authors’ readings in your community. Join your local writing association and attend conferences. You never know when your teacher from three summers past will pass your name onto her agent or her friend who runs a small press.

 

  • Scheduling a one-on-one (a meeting with one other person) and at the meeting take good notes. Always carry your business cards and your referral partners’ business cards as well so you can pass out a name if you need to. Use a binder/business card sheet system that is arranged up alphabetically by first name so you can quickly find your contacts. It’s also a good idea to carry multiples of your writing colleagues’ cards so you don’t run out.

In the one-on-one, ask your networking partner these smart questions so you can better know them and their business:

Who is your ideal reader?

Who are your best referral partners?

What are your professional writing goals over the next 90 days?

What challenges are you faced with right now?

What is your passion behind your writing? (WHY you do what you do?)

Also remember that a one-on-one is never a sales pitch.

Always follow up with potential referrals and give them the links and contact information they requested in your one-on-one meeting.

Use the people you know right now in your network even if you share different careers because you never know who can help you land your next assignment or big publishing break. And remember, strong networks don’t happen overnight, so start growing yours now!

 

Alice Osborn, M.A. is the author of two books of poetry, Unfinished Projects (Main Street Rag, 2010) and Right Lane Ends (Catawba, 2006); she is a manuscript editor, freelance writer and storyteller. A former Raleigh Charter High School English teacher, Alice has served as a Writer-in-Residence in the Artists in the Schools program since 2009. Her work appears in Raleigh’s News and Observer, The Pedestal Magazine, and in numerous journals and anthologies. She lives in Raleigh, North Carolina, with her husband and two children. Website: www.aliceosborn.com.

 

Gluten Free…Mom, What’s for Dinner?

 

Hi.  I’m Lady T’s friend, Mary Blackburn author of Gluten Free Get-Togethers.  I blog over at Easy Gluten Free Living.  I have been gluten free since 1987 when I was diagnosed with celiac disease.  Lady T asked me if I would share some insight into living and working gluten free with her readers.  So I hope you find some value in this information.

As hard working mothers, we are always looking for shortcuts to making dinner.  But what if you have a child that is gluten intolerant or has celiac disease?  Are there any right off the store shelf foods that you can have for a quick dinner?  Here’s just some of the brands that I look to for dinner for my family.

  • Meat:  Poultry, Fish, Canned Salmon, Canned Chicken, Canned Tuna, 100% Ground Beef, Pork, Turkey, Chicken
  • Prego Spaghetti Sauce
  • Joan of Arc Kidney Beans
  • Canned Tomatoes / Dei Fratelli Seasoned Diced Tomatoes
  • Hormel Pepperoni and Hormel Turkey Pepperoni
  • Any and all fresh fruits and vegetables
  • Frozen Vegetables (Not packaged with sauces, except Walmart’s Value Time, they are processed in a facility that also processes wheat)
  • Potatoes both white and sweet
  • Pure Rice – Brown, white, basmati, (Not Rice a Roni or such, it has wheat pasta mixed in)
  • Corn Tortilla Shells / Corn Taco Shells
  • Ortega Brand Taco Seasoning Mix
  • Quaker Plain Rice Cakes (not the flavored ones)
  • Salsa
  • Cereals – Chex Brand, Corn, Rice (or any with the new Gluten Free Label), Cream of Rice, Grits
  • Eggs
  • Milk – Cow, Soy, Rice, Goat
  • Real Cheese (such as mozzarella, cheddar, and such), Velveeta Cheese, Philadelphia Cream Cheese (plain), Cheese Whiz
  • Sour Cream (not light or reduced calorie or fat free, they can contain fillers that could have wheat in them)
  • Butter
  • I Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter brand Margarine (there may be others but this is the only brand I know for certain)
  • Yoplait, Breyers, Yogurt, (check ingredient label, not all flavors are gluten free)
  • Cracker Barrel Cheese
  • Kaukauna Cheese
  • Beans and Bean Flours
  • Lay’s Potato Chips
  • Dorito’s Cool Ranch Tortilla Chips
  • Cheeto’s Brand corn snacks
  • Salted or Plain Nuts and Seeds (as long as they are not seasoned)
  • Nut Flour
  • Heinz ketchup
  • Kraft Miracle Whip Salad Dressing
  • All Vinegars except Malt Vinegar
  • Lea & Perrin’s Worcestershire Sauce (in the United States)
  • French’s Yellow and Spicy Brown Mustard
  • Guldens Spicy Brown Mustard
  • Pickles
  • Pickle Relish
  • Be Wary of Soy Sauce there are some gluten free brands but you need to check labels.
  • Most of Kraft Salad Dressings

 

There are now even ready made gluten free tortellini and ravioli.  The brand I like is Conte’s.

Just remember to read labels.  All labels, all the time.  If you have any favorites that are not listed here feel free to leave a comment letting me know what I’ve missed.

Just as an addendum, my husband bought a bag of Snyder’s of Berlin Potato Chips the other day.  Snyder’s of Berlin Potato chips are not gluten free.  They say right on the bag that they are processed in a factory that also processes wheat products.

So please be sure to check package labels, always.

Mary Blackburn is a wife, mother, and grandmother.  She has been building an online business since 2004.  She loves reading, cooking & baking, gardening, animals, (especially her beloved black Labrador Retriever, Charlie), sightseeing, traveling, writing and spending time with her family.

She has been gluten-free since 1987, when she was diagnosed with Celiac Disease.  You can learn more about Mary and sign up for her newsletter, The Gluten Free Gazette at her website, http://www.easyglutenfreeliving.com