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No Is the New YES!

You volunteer at your church.

You help out in your community.

You are the go to person in the family.

The kids can’t live without you.

Everyone counts on you.

They know who to come to to get things done.

You are Ms. It.

Ms. Thang.

You do it all.

Yeah,  how is that working for your business?

I am always amazed at my clients, powerful women, when they tell me that they are going to put in 1-2 hours a day, 2-3 days a week, on their business.

It makes me LAUGH OUT LOUD because they HIRE me as their business coach and then assume that they will continue with their regularly scheduled program-barely putting time into their business.

I have to tell them, “No, no sister girl. Now it’s time to work! And the business on-the-back-burner-thang is no longer going to cut it!”

They are always shocked! “How many hours Lady T? I have to do this & that & this & that….maybe I can do an hour a day 6 days a week.”

That is their sacrifice!  That is their compromise!

That is hilarious.

That is sad.

Because it reveals (to me AND often times to her) how much time she has been putting into her business before hiring me.

Moms, if you want your business to grow you MUST put in more time. And that means learning to say no to everything and everybody, for a while, to get momentum in your business.

How long do you have to say no? I don’t know.

It depends on your business, your depth of knowledge in your industry, your competition, your computer skills, the number of children, how old they are etc.

I assumed that my first year in business I could immediately make $5,o00 a month. That’s what all of the gurus told me I could do.

But I spent the first several months learning how to put my website together. Months later I outsourced it and the first time I ran into a problem I didn’t have the knowledge or language to explain the problem to my host sever.

I spent the next several months learning internet marketing. Then came Twitter a BRAND new form of social media with it’s new rules and laws.

You have got to put in time into your business to learn the things that you’re not proficient in and then put in time to learn how to use the technology to  capitalize on the things that you ARE proficient with.

Learn to say no so that you can say Yes to your success!





Do you have a hard time saying, NO? Here are some phrases that I teach women in my seminars. Try these nice “no” phrases on for size.

“I would love to however…..”

“Thanks for the opportunity however….”

“What a wonderful idea, however…..”

“I appreciate you asking me of all people, however…..”

If you need to stall for time because you’re too afraid to say “no” right there on the spot here are nice ways to lead to no:

“Let me check my schedule before I commit to that.”

“I’ll get back to you on that.”

Go home and practice and then call them back with one of the above ‘no’ phrases.

Do NOT (and I repeat DO NOT) go into long explanations. They do not care!

If they ask why, they are just trying to judge if it’s really important or how to talk you into what they want. That’s not for them to decide is it? So again don’t give long explanations.

If you want success you must learn to say no because “No’ is the new “Yes”! Use it generously for the sake of your success.

Have you discovered a “no” phrase that works for you? Share it with us!

To Our Mutual Success, Lady T

  • Tonya
    October 14, 2011 at 12:35 am

    I think this is one of the most important information for me because i have a hard time saying no. i’m committed to learning so that i can be successful! Good job, cheers

  • Victorious Cheryl
    October 7, 2011 at 9:59 pm

    Great Post!This is just what the business Dr. ordered!


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