Success means different things to different people and if you’re not conscious in this life it is very easy to fall for someone else’s definition of “success”.
When I first started speaking and training on a national level I had the opportunity to sit under some pretty successful and popular speakers; Brain Tracey, Jack Canfield, Les Brown, Tony Robbins just to name a few. I remember once at a conference feverishly taking notes on how to “fill your appointment book with 300 speaking engagments per year.” Two days later, I was feeling pretty stressed about all I had to do and when I prayed it brought me to my senses: I DON’T WANT 300 SPEAKING ENGAGEMENTS PER YEAR!
I had gotten side-tracked by all of the compliments of my seminars. I had gotten enamored with the traveling and nice hotels. More than anything, I had gotten giddy about not having to constantly change diapers and pick out their little boogers. I was delirious with joy that I didn’t have to figure out what’s for dinner and try to remember if I had refilled the ice trays!
So delirious that I allowed someone else to define success for me.
I am now VERY clear on my own definition of success.
I do a lot of self-reflection. I’m constantly presenting myself (mentally) before my Creator to check my intentions, desires, and thoughts. My constant question: Am I walking in LOVE or Am I walking in FEAR in 4 areas: my relationships, my business, my children, my spiritual growth.
When one allows fear to control ones behaviors it brings feelings of guilt, doubt, aniexty or anger….like a failure. Example behaviours: hanging on to my children because “they grow so fast” or not moving in my business; not extending myself to people because “they’ll suck up my time”.
When one allows love to control ones behaviors it brings feelings of liberation, joy, trust, generousity…. like anything’s possible. Example behaviours: trying something new, letting go of an argument even though I’m right, taking time to encourage someone who’s lost hope, giving my last, doing what I believe pleases God.
For me success has nothing to do with money, a busy schedule, popularity or other external forces. I’m my only judge. I’m successful when I am operating in love. When my intentions, desires and thoughts are focused on doing right and good. When I keep vigilance on those things then business flows, relationships clear up and of course I’m growing spiritually.
How do you measure success?