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My Opinion on Cougar Moms

Cougar moms, interesting subject! Interesting species of women. A cougar mom is described as an older

Ok, ok! So it's a leopard!

Ok, ok! So it’s a leopard!

woman who is into (and sometimes will hunt down) younger guys. They are unabashedly flirtatious and dress to compete with young teenage girls. Many teens are ashamed, embarrassed and angry at their moms who flirt with their teen friends, date the younger male teachers at their school, hang out at the club or talk openly about their sex life!

Now, don’t get me wrong,  I’d like to think of myself as a sexy, older woman who could pull a young buck or two. 

  • I exercise (on occasion) to stay thin (which ain’t working) and wear hip clothes (is the word “hip” still in?).
  • I use slang so that I can seem relevant to my son’s friends (fur real-dough, I’m off da chiz-ain!).
  • On rare occasions I press on some nails
  • On even rare-er I weave on some hair.

I do all of this to avoid slipping into the middle age category.

You know, where the protruding belly pouch and wide thighs, the dislike of rap music and all things loud, the constant chattering of “wise” instructions and the uncontrollable nodding off; where the obsessive search for flat shoes and comfortable clothes and the inability to control leakage when you cough, sneeze, laugh, yell or walk- causes your children to run away like you’re a large, red oozing pimple threatening their social life.  YOU, the one who gave them life, is now perceived as  a threat to their life!

 Yes, I try to avoid being grouped with the middle agers. So for the sake of maintaining a relationship with my sons and their friends I do what I can to stay relevant, hip, cool and in style.

I stay sexy and flirtatious for the sake of my husband.  We’ve been married for 17 years and I can clearly see he’s slipping into the middle life time warp  (he wears sneakers with khaki pants. Arrragh!).  But he’s mine and even though the kids see him as a wise, old, oozing, red pimple I still see him as my groom.  I like the feeling that I get when I make him blush. I love when he becomes tongue-tied because I’ve interrupted our discussion about paying bills with a reminder of how sexy he is.  Making him promises to do things that I know we’re both to tired (or stiff) to even attempt, not only makes me feel good but him as well.  For the sake of maintaining a relationship with my husband I do what I can to stay hot, sexy and cougar-like.

But for the sake of me, M-E;  for preserving my self-esteem, my spiritual grow, my intellectual stimulation, my psychological development, my mental sanity; I pursue my PURPOSE. I don’t need the consent of my sons, the approval of a bunch of barely-driving teens or  even the admiration my wonderfully, middle-aged husband. To live a life that’s exciting and adventurous I live my God-given purpose.

I would venture to say that most cougar moms are women who feel purposeless and are afraid

  • They are afraid that life is passing them by.
  • They are afraid that they’ve missed out.
  • They’re afraid that they don’t have a purpose.
  • They’re afraid that they are no longer relevant.
  • They need approval and they are bored with life.

Without a purpose, without direction in life or an understanding of their divine value to God they seek validation, excitement, and some sense of control by engaging in taboo behaviors and relationships.

If I wanted to, I could be a cougar mom and pull a couple of young boys, but this God fearing, married, cougar mom of 5, chooses to pursue Purpose and allow IT to generate excitement, adventure and validation of my worth.

Find your purpose moms! Pursue it with passion!  Hunt it down.  Call it, woo it until it comes. The pursuit alone will awaken your soul, accelerate your spiritual growth,  erect your self-esteem, massage your ego and stimulate your mind.  Even a fine, sexy young thang with washboard abs, protruding biceps, a cute smile, straight white teeth and a golden, glistening hot bod can’t do ALL of that.

I would love to hear your thoughts. Leave a comment.

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    September 20, 2010 at 9:21 pm

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    • Lady T
      September 24, 2010 at 2:24 pm

      Thank you very much!

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    After searching Google I found your site. I think it’s very good. You are thought provoking and relevant and I will be coming back in the future. Cougar moms do the right thing!

  • Garretot
    April 27, 2010 at 8:46 pm

    What a great blog! I’m glad I found you! You sound like a cool, cougar mom; the role-model type that I want to follow. Not the slutty type. lol

    • Lady T
      April 30, 2010 at 3:34 pm

      Thank you! Please subscribe and tell all of your friends.

  • Paula Ficara
    April 24, 2010 at 9:22 pm

    First of all – we women have got to get it into everyone’s heads that the term “Cougar” has a NEW meaning! The cougar of today can be a mom, can be married, can be attracted to men (or women) of ANY age – and one thing she definitely has is class! Cougars of today are older women who haven’t lost their passion for life. They’re adventurous, sexy, and wise. They also are confident with high self-esteem and are proud and excited about their age and where they are in their lives. (Sounds to me like you fall right into that category!) So you’ve got our support in saying that the women who are having trouble accepting that they’re getting older need to step out of that fear and start their hunt of becoming true Kougars! Our ezine is an empowerment lifestyle magazine for women 35+ who are on that journey. Please take a look! I think you’ll love it! xoxo

    • Lady T
      April 25, 2010 at 11:32 pm

      Thanks Paula! I do consider myself a cougar in terms of the NEW meaning! The current connotation of the word is so negative. Hopefully, your magazine will add to the sophistication of the word and show us women who are truly adventurous, sexy and wise; as opposed to women who are so desperate and fearful that they sell themselves short by giving their bodies to any man in an attempt to be validated. Why do we call that sexy? It’s dis- empowering and shameful. “Sexy” is soooo much more than the physical. Please, let your magazine help our daughters to understand that. I’ll check it out. Thanks!


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