work at home moms, business mentoring and coaching for small business

Aren’t You Tired of Bad News?

I don’t watch the news. People (namely my mother and father)are always trying to convince me that I need to know what’s going on in the world. I don’t think that knowing a baby was placed in the microwave by its mother, or Brittney Spears’ latest drama or how many people were bombed in Baghdad serves me. Those are things outside my sphere of control and they don’t really affect my life. Those stories add to the prevalent sense of fear that is palpable in our society.

To know how many people lost their jobs and how bad the economy is, help me to be sympathic toward people and their loss, but too much of that information becomes a distraction on how I run my business. I can’t coach and encourage WAHM to success if I’m also thinking of the “failing” economy. And the mom entrepreneurs that I’ve coached have gone on to do great things despite the “bad” economy. Why? Because we never entertain the conversation.

If you’re tired of the bad news check out happynews.com. Great information that will make you smile and keep you encouraged!

How To Get What You Want

If you hear yourself saying statements like: “I was trying to tell him…but he just wouldn’t listen”, then know that you were not being direct. If you have assumptions like, “everyone knows that if I do this they should do that”. Or assumptions that the other person would “do the right thing” or would “know what to do”, but they don’t, then know that you need to speak about your needs/wants directly.

So many women are resentful at people because “people” have let them down or disappointed them. However, when I have them to talk more about it, they have never truly communicated what they wanted.

You must open your eyes, grow up, come to an understanding, take responsibility…whatever you want to call it…stop living in your world and realize that everyone comes from a different place, a different background, a different mindset, different relationships. When dealing with a good majority of people always assume that there are no set standards and be willing to express your wants and needs. Express them directly. Express them often.

How can they “let you down” when they only had a vague understanding of what you expected from them? Their vague understanding was based solely on their interepration of your relationship and their experiences with other people in similar relationships.

Now, of course, there are many cavaets to this. Some people are stuck on selfish and they aren’t trying to give you what you need. Some aren’t obligated to give you what you need. Some are incapable of giving you what you need. Assess the situation.

Because, if you have a need you have the right to respectfully express it to anyone you choose.

But remember you are OBLIGATED to express it DIRECTLY, TRUTHFULLY and CANDIDLY. If you don’t then save your anger and resentment for another occasion with another person.

Calling All Christian Entrepreneurial Moms!

As a mom you have the most powerful job in the world! So why do you play small? Success in your entrepreneurial venture is contingent on you taking a firm stand to walk in your power and promised blessings. Your success is NOT contingent on the economy, the government or family members supporting you. Stop playing small and helpless and go after your dreams!

I think I’ve said this before on video…oh yeah, here it is.

Free Stuff

Blogging, by linking other people’s articles, feels a little like I’m cheating. Don’t I owe it to my oh-so-many-followers to give them my thoughts, opinions, ideas and tips about women and entrepreneurship and business coaching.

But I decided to get over it. There’s so much great info on the net and this article is one of them. She lists many places on the web where you can get things for free. Read it here: http://green.yahoo.com/blog/the_conscious_consumer/53/how-to-find-free-stuff.html

Which is Bigger: Your Problem or You?

After having coached an absolutely powerful woman this morning, I hung up the phone-well, I actually closed up the phone-amazed, again, that someone can be so talented, so gifted, so powerful, so called to do what she does and still struggle with doubt and negativity.

To help her move along, we refocused on her target market, mission and vision statements. I talked her through a visualization activity that reminded her of her strengths and gave her a nightly assignment. Once reminded of her potency she was ready to resume the pursuit of her weekly goals.

But once again I was reminded of how our minds can make life, troubles, our weaknesses, seem so much bigger then they truly are.

Then I found this video. The card trick is a great visual of that point. Adrian Law also addresses how to deal with the negative thinking and the benefit of a coach.